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Addressing Overzealous Sports Parents: A Necessary Approach

Published: 2023-11-17
Addressing Overzealous Sports Parents: A Necessary Approach
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Witnessing a father reprimanding his son for not winning gold instead of silver in a soccer tournament underscores the extremity of parental obsession with youth sports. While rooted in a desire for excellence, this behavior often harms more than helps.


Key issues in youth sports today include:


Early sports involvement, at ages 4-5, introduces excessive structure and competitive focus, negatively impacting children's development. This trend has grown since the late '70s, reflecting a shift in parental priorities and financial capabilities.

The "trophy child syndrome," prevalent among parents, creates unrealistic expectations. This obsession with winning and excelling in every field, from academics to extracurriculars, puts unnecessary pressure on children.



Inexperienced coaching staff, often former athletes lacking an educational background in child psychology or parental management, exacerbates the issue.

Parents' consumerist approach towards their child's sports involvement demands visible returns on investment, like starting positions or scholarships, despite these being rare outcomes.

The transformation of youth sports is irreversible. To understand these changes, Tom Farrey's "Game On" and John O’Sullivan’s "Changing the Game" offer insightful perspectives.


To combat these issues, we suggest:


Reinforcing to all stakeholders that youth sports should prioritize children's well-being.

Acknowledging children's primary reasons for playing sports: enjoyment, socializing, skill acquisition, and self-worth.

Advocating for unstructured playtime for children aged 3-6, free from adult-led activities or rules.


Educating parents through various means:

    • Utilizing Kahlil Gibran's parenting metaphor in his book "The Prophet," he emphasizes the role of parents in guiding but not controlling their children's paths.
    • Heeding Martin Gipson's advice on parenting through adolescence, focusing on instilling and refining core values in children.
    • Teaching life skills to children, such as empathy, hard work, patience, and community contribution, rather than fostering entitlement.


Promoting a lifelong appreciation for sports, considering that the vast majority of youth athletes will not play at the collegiate level. Encourage skills useful for both recreational and competitive contexts.

Involving parents in the educational process within sports clubs and schools through pre-season meetings, coaching philosophy dissemination, and establishing clear communication protocols for athlete-parent-coach interactions.

Terry Liskevych retired in 2016 as the head women’s coach at Oregon State and is one of the founders of The Art of Coaching Volleyball. He coached the U.S. women’s national team at three Olympics, including 1992 when they won a bronze medal in Barcelona.